How to Deal with Rejection in Singing
Rejection and dealing with negative criticism is just part of the singer’s life but that doesn’t mean its easy to deal with.
When you’re struggling to sing with confidence and find your groove musically the last thing you need is someone telling you they don’t like how you’re singing or to criticize you when you finally make the leap to the stage.
Unfortunately, everyone who has a voice thinks they are a critic and so comments and opinions will always be there. It goes for anyone who dares to publicly display their creativity – whether that be singing on stage, writing songs, sharing artwork, even expressing your creativity through the way you dress. If you dare to be different, you will come up against people who, for whatever reason, want to share their opinion with you.
So, how do you deal with rejection and negative comments? That’s what we’ll be dealing with in today’s vid.
Here’s how to deal with rejection in singing.
1. Take a breather and revisit the email/ rejection later with fresh eyes.
If you receive a negative email or comment, instead of responding negatively in kind, take 10 mins or sleep on it if you’re really upset.
Do NOT bite back or email back something like, “FU I’m awesome. What do you know anyway!” This is a sure fire way to ruin relationships.
2. Don’t take it personally
Very hard not to but most of the time people are just expressing how they feel about the work you’ve produced not necessarily you as a singer.
If someone says ‘you suck’ – then they’re not being productive, they don’t care about you and are being a DICK so just ignore those douchebags but most people will criticize the WORK not you.
3. Get a second opinion
What one person hates, another will love. The fact is that most people are not musically trained and so they can’t give you an educated opinion on your singing anyway. They just provide an opinion based on what they personally like.
If in doubt, find someone with training who you respect and know will offer constructive criticism rather than personal opinion.
PS: Never ask fellow musicians because they will often be the most critical. Its more about them than you.
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