What Should You Do When People Won’t Support Your Dream to Sing?
If you dream of becoming a singer but are not getting the support from your parents/ boyfriend/ friends then this episode is for you.
Things you may hear from people around you include:
– “Singing is not a sensible career choice”
– “You should study something else… just in case”
– “You have to be reeeeeeally good to make it as a singer”
… and my personal favourite:
– “You’ve been at this a while now and you’re still not huge. Don’t you think its time to try something else?” – I heard this one A LOT during my own musical journey.
Even now, when I tell people I’m a singer I nearly always get in response, “Oh cool. Do you do that full time?”
You would never ask someone who runs their own small business or a sports coach or a doctor if they do their job full time, so why is there such a negative perception surrounding singing as a career choice?
Watch the video and find out how you can deal with this negativity and follow your dreams, even when others don’t dare to follow theirs.
Nicola xx
VIDEO SUMMARY
TIP ONE: Singing Is A Sensible Career Choice.
Pursuing singing is not easy but YES! It is a viable and sustainable career (I should know) and you can make a decent living from doing what you love.
I know many, many musicians who are relatively unknown but who make a decent middle income from doing what they love.
You can supplement your income with teaching when you are just starting out and once you have built up your networks and know quite a few other musos in your local area, you can easily survive on gigs and selling merchandise.
TIP TWO: It is your life and you need to lead it the way YOU want.
Not your parents/ boyfriend/ friends. Tell THEM to go and study law/ business/ accounting (yawn!) or get a ‘sensible’ job doing something they hate.
Why would you spend three or four years of your life studying to do something you don’t really want to do when you can apply that time to your music career and learn what you need to know to get ahead?
TIP THREE: That deep yearning inside you to be a singer will never go away.
Yes you can try to bury it and go and take the easy or ‘normal’ path for a while but trust me when I say, the desire to sing will never leave you so you might as well just go for it!
If you quit, I guarantee you will look back one day and wonder ‘what if’. So don’t quit!
Now I’d love to hear from you:
Have you ever come up against negativity in your dream to become a singer? If you have, how did it make you feel and how did you react?
Please share your thoughts in the comments below.
Nicola x
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Hi Nicola,
Firstly, so glad I stumbled across your website via a picture on pinterest.
Just wanted to comment and say yes, this has happened to me before a few years ago when I told my parents I wanted to pursue a career in the performing arts. That was when I was 16, I’m now 20 and doing some local work singing at a jazz club now but I have tried to silence my want to be a singer for all those years and let me tell you, I strongly relate to your comment about it not going away. I am on the way to making steps to doing more of what I love.
Thank you so much for posting that video.
Gemma
You are most welcome! I’m so glad to hear that you have persisted and are now out there getting gigs. Well done!
Hi Nicola! I’m a student in school and this year we have a musical coming up as our annual day. Im pretty good at singing and I’ve wanted to be in Broadway for a long time but I never get the chance…. Our singing teacher picked the girls for auditions and I didn’t get chosen. Side note I may have hid my face because I thought what if she doesn’t like my voice? Now I regret it and the girls have already been chosen for the parts…. I am happy for them but I really wish I was with them singing! What do I do? How do I get a chance? And if I do which song do you suggest I sing at the audition? Thanks so much!
1st of thank you nicola for posting this its really helpful I will say I am myself blockage because I never belived in myself nor my singing voice I still fill d same way till this date all I know is whenever I sing people around me always praise my singing voice but I never thought my singing voices good myself if theres anyway you can help me
Your dreams are the things you doubt ni reality
This is so ….inspiring Nicola…but right now I’m so afraid even when someone like my friend asks me to sing..n my voice begins to ..shake…though I sing gud n fearlessly on stage n when alone…
Same here bro just believe dream work and achieve
hi im ashly im 14 years old and my friends and parents fam and teachers laugh at me cause i told them i want to be a pop singer and now they call me the dream joke and i cry everytime don’t know what to do and the only thing i do is write my songs and write it as my emotions
Hi coming from a 15 year old with the same dreams I’ll tell you let’s go through this musical journey together I’ll make the effort not to quit you should too
My daughter is very intense about her singing
desire and she is emotionally motivated to fulfill her dream. But i try to incourage her about it on, how she should accomplish that by telling her to focus on work only
.Then she becomes depressed that i’m not being fair to her, because of her school studies. What i really mean to say is that, she wants to quit school for music. So would you help me.
Hi, I’m a freshman in high school and I really loving singing, alone or for friends. My older sister is a really good singer and so are both my parents. I’ve always felt that I should t sing bc I’m not as good as them. I was going to be in choir this year but now bc of the virus I’m not. I still want to sing tho. I’ve done plays and lots of acting and public speaking too but I’m just afraid to sing in front of my family. I just don’t feel good enough. Also my sister is a very rude person and constantly judges me etc. she always has something rude to say to me. And I think I’m just scared she’ll say something mean. Please help!!! I don’t want a career in singing but I still want to sing in high school
hi. I started writing and singing 6 years ago. Its all i see myself doing and its hard cos i get like no support from my family. I literally would b dead without music sounds like an exaggeration but its the truth. Im going to keep going. Is there anything i can do to change their minds?
Thankyou! My sister HATES it when i sing and i asked her one day if i sound really bad but she said that i sound good, it’s just that she doesn’t think i should have talent. Her words hurt me alot more then she thinks and i only sing in private areas where no one is around. Your words made me realize that my sister is just a loser and i should ignore her. She can cover her ears and tell me to shut up all she wants, but i aint stoppin.
People say people who are famous have problems,but I’m not going to be like that. I don’t feel like I should sing anymore because I think my parents won’t let me.
I have my job. Ain’t a professional singer like earning money from it. But I really enjoy singing and I’m singing on Smule. My family doesn’t support me at all. They think that would hurt my “prestigious” software engineer career. It’s ridiculous. They don’t even want I share my songs on my IG stories, because they think their relative and friend would make fun of me.
Nicola, Thank you for all the valuable information you give to us. It is greatly appreciated. Well, back many years ago when I was a teenager I found my love for music. I was a drummer in a local band and did a little singing as well. As you can guess, I was told to get serious about your life and find a real career. To make a very long story short, I joined the Army, went Viet Nam, and after getting my head back on straight, I went back to school and became a field engineer for one of the major computer manufactures in the world. While traveling on the road, I would always sing to an audience of one……me!. I would play my music on the radio and sing along. Well, now that I’m retired I decided to get back into my music and I’m loving it. I go around to different nursing homes and assisted living homes to perform the music that I think they want to hear. I do this as a volunteer, but trust me when I tell you, I get paid many times over when I see the reaction/smiles on their faces when they hear the music they so love. So I guess if I hadn’t of listened to the people in my life so many tears ago, I might have been able to bring more joy to more people. Like you said, do what you love to do. If you do what you love, than everything else will fall into place in time, and you will be that much happier for doing it. God Bless you and keep up the great work you do for all the singers of the world. You are such a bright positive beacon in a world full of fog.
Hi Billy, I was really touched by your lovely message. Thank you for taking the time to write. I am so glad that you are now doing what you love and making a difference in people’s lives, because that’s what it is really all about. I hope you continue to make people happy through your music and if I can be of any assistance along the way, just let me know. xx
Thanks for the positive thought in me. Because I’m hanging at the edge of the mountain to fall I mean that I’m started thinking negatively But your words gave me positive thinking. I don’t care what the others or my parents or my relatives going to say I do care what I’m doing what I liked to do for myself. I’m thinking singing is more my like but I don’t know how to sing eventhough I love to hear it. The song that making me happier then even but I don’t know why I do know that I can be without song. That made me to think to become an singer. Singing that mean to me everything. I just don’t know how explain. U made my decision YES… Thanks for eveything.
You can do it! If you love singing then go for it!!! 🙂
I feel sad a lot my wife thinks I’m not good ive been singing 25 years I think people are jeloues and don’t want to see others succed cause me a lot of depression I missed 2 times 1 for Americas got talent anf the voice I didn’t have the money for the gas or hotel
Hey nicola, i must say you are so right in follow your dreams, i mean, im really unhappy, i know i can sing if i practice and if i take some lessons but i have no support from my wife, she laughs when i say i want to take classes, i have the voice, i need to learn techniques and learn how to use my body… Whoever has the chance, should follow their dreams…
Hi Akira, quite often its those closest to us that don’t show enough support. I don’t think its because they mean to be hurtful I just think they think singing is an unobtainable dream and too ‘risky’. If they don’t have the yearning of music inside them, they will never understand. Having said that, over the years my family have come to accept that music is and always will be a huge part of my life and now they support me. Sometimes they still upset me with their insensitive comments about my songwriting or latest project. They ALWAYS think I’m overextending myself and pursuing unrealistic goals. Its just one of those things you have to put up with if you strive to do something that is slightly left of the norm. I believe in you, and you should believe in yourself too and go for it. The whole community here at Singer’s Secret will help support you. xx
Hi Mrs Nicola
Thanks so much for this privileged I really appreciate it
This is my little story:
I’m just a 19 year old who never had a stand in likes or Ambition i.e I never keep to something I say I keep changing all the time but one time in my life since I left High school I choose not to further rather discover a talent and a future for myself but lol it was really hard for me because I never had a stand in things so after 2 years of graduating from High school I got an inspiration from a singer though I discovered the singer late because he already died 3 years before I discovered him but that still didn’t pull me down from that moment I then fell in love with Music and I started to sing though I don’t have a good vocals at that time because I don’t know anything about Music,Or Singing but I still didn’t give up though so April 2020 was when I made the decision that becoming a singer is what I want and ever since that day I practice on my own with no friend,Coach or helper just me alone in my room I sing songs of some Artists though it was really hard for me because my Voice always hurt and pains me but I still didn’t stop I continued and am happy today that even though am not a professional Singer but just a Beginner my Vocals really really really really improved a lot more better than when I started
About me dreaming having a negative side yeah I always have that thought always I see myself being asked questions are you really happy singing do singing gives you happiness does it makes your day mood and moment Good my answers always yes though I have tried stopping myself to sing but I see myself still singing and practicing I don’t have parents support at all in any aspect but my Online Friends are really motivating and helpful to me though I have never attended a Music School or class Before I guess and Destined for this and am really happy I have support from Outside thanks again for this privilege Mrs Nicola!!❤️
Hey. This is so true. Everything. I was just wondering if you have any tips for a 15 year old who wants to make it as a singer but doesn’t have the money to actually go out to places to try to get noticed. I know I need to be patient, and practice a lot. I’ve been trying for a while, and now decided on YouTube as a good way to go for my low budget. Thanks.
John Mayer used to sneak into clubs when he was 16 to sing at mic nights… but he was over 6 foot so it kinda made it easier for him! lol. Having said that, two great ways to get noticed: 1. Do mic nights but get a parent to accompany you. People will LOVE seeing a young person up on stage. 2. Start posting your stuff up onto YouTube. There are a lot of teenagers who have built massive audiences this way. 🙂
Hello, Nicola! This is Mary from Greece.
I wish I could express how much this negative attitude of people influenced me as a child and kept away/prevented me from pursuing my dream to be a musical theater singer! When I was a child and studied piano, the music school choir’s director told my father that I was just hopeless (I was there to hear that too, oh yes). Then as years passed, all I would hear was that my voice was metallic, very loud, harsh and a bunch of other terrible things and in any case, not interesting at all. So, I was led to believe that my voice was a disaster, a singing career would get me nowhere, and so on. Still I couldn’t keep myself from singing on my own. I sing EVERY DAY. Literally. In the car, at home, everywhere I am.
Anyway, a couple of months ago (now that I’m almost 39yo) I decided to start singing lessons in order to learn how to sing correctly. I don’t hope that I have any chances now to become a musical theater singer, but at least when I sing for myself I want to sound NICE.
So I’m very happy to have found your website. Thank you for all the tips and videos!!!
Hi Mary! I’m so glad you’ve found your way back to singing. I firmly believe that you can become fabulous and achieve your dreams if you put your mind to it. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise xx
Hi,I’m Nabilah Siddiqui and I’m 17 years old.I dont know how to ask for help but I’ll still continue..singing is for me is like EVERYTHING!Whenever I get the chance I sing my heart out-be it in my room alone, bathroom singing,singing before going to sleep, singing after reading my fav novel or when I’m in the kitchen-i just love to sing.It has been my favourite thing since I was 5 years old..but you know you always have hurdles in your way..no path is easy..now I’m 17 and my parents and worse even my siblings get angry when I sing..I dont know why.They want me to be a doctor and so I have chosen the science stream in class 11th.But I really really want to be a singer.I practice every single day.Alone.My friends encourage me.And that good 🙂 I dont know why I feel like crying whenever I complete my songs that I write..maybe becuz I would never be able to express them to the people out there.Please help me.What should I do now.
It seems we both share a common problem regarding the acceptance of our parents ..mmmm……can’t we be together on digital platform so that we
may help one other,as more practical you go in your life,the more it’ll be tough for you acheive what you wish to. But on web we can help ourselves without any mess. Hope you’ll be in friendly terms with me.
I’m a freshman in high school and it took me awhile to realize that music is all I ever want to do with my life. It was a pretty recent discovery, actually. I have other hobbies, but none of them have ever consumed my heart the way that music and performing do. I know my parents probably don’t think that music or singing is a sensible career choice AT All, and I know that my dad is really serious about business and doing what “works” so that I will have a roof over my head. I get it. This article has inspired me not to stifle the muse inside of me. After all, if we don’t spend a lifetime fighting tooth and nail for that thing our heart beats for, what HAVE we spent a lifetime doing?
I couldn’t agree more! 🙂
Hi, Nicola! Firstly, I would like to say thank you for posting this video even though I’m a guy(I’m presuming your video is targeted for girls, the ‘boyfriend’ part, lol.) Anyways, I’m 19 now, and ever since I was 13 I always wanted to be a singer, but because my family put me down saying that I can’t sing, I actually thought about doing other things. I am currently studying IT in a school and coming from an Asian family(I’m sure it applies to other types of families as well), my parents want me to study hard and be a computer programmer, etc.(basically jobs that they think earn a lot of money). Anyways, as I got older, I rediscovered my dream to sing again, when I was around 17 or 18, and I began searching up for free vocal lessons to sing properly. And yet again my parents still doesn’t support me and expects me to take a 9-5 job. Sometimes I wish I could explain to them what singing means to me and how singers can survive. Also, in Asian countries there are a few people auditioning for companies, which I also intend to do. But for these countries, the requirement is they want young people and the maximum age is 20+. So I felt like I wasted a few years doing nothing but basically forgetting the dream of being a singer. I would like to thank you for helping me get a better picture and also give me ideas on how to deal with such situations. Sincerely thank you, from the bottom of my heart
Hi Xavier, thank you so much for sharing. I’m so glad you’ve found your way back to singing and I truly believe that you can make a sustainable career for yourself in music doing what you love. Your parents will hopefully come around once they see that you’re doing great things with your singing and making a decent living from it. 🙂
Music has been my first and the foremost love since my early school days and its not like that I end up with mere enchants of cribbed verses,but I find myself gifted(I think just,not believe) with some strange and unique talent of inventing unbelievable catchy lyrics… supported by really apt and rich rythm.
But no one in family,not even my friends could see and feel the depth of my songs…and sometime I feel tired of trying any further. And this thing is not so just because I love singing,but I love singing in English which makes my parents say that they vision a bleak future if I just keep going on with it. yet my English is a bit terrible but I have improved a lot from last year and though I am an Indian, I manage to sing almost in a pure American accent on which I receive mixed responses from my friends.I’m also lacking money to support my dream.
My parents wish me to be on commison office of Indian Army and I have no other choice….But I’ll make it anyhow I was needing a little guidance and I recieved it from you….loved it and thanks a lot #Nicola for valuable information.
Hi Smit,
Why not work on your singing part time while you complete your engineering degree, then look for gigs in the evenings on the weekends. It is actually very possible to do both because singing hours usually don’t clash with traditional working hours. Then when your singing picks up enough you can drop down to part time on the engineering side then eventually do singing full time if that is what you want.
Hey Nicola ,
First of all I would like to say thank you. For inspiring me at this very moment. It is so hard to find a family member of a friend who will positively say full force” go for it just do it “. I am a 24 year old male opera singer (tenor). I have been pursuing my career for 5 years now, have fallen down to the ground , cried and cried , prayed , have gotten back up and I’m here writing this to you. I have just a few days ago got a great opportunity to be a para professional educator 9-5 type thing , summers off and paid , great health insurance, paid holidays and sick days, sounds like I hit the jackpot , inside I don’t feel that way , feels like a death sentence and I can’t help but feel like if I take this job instead of focus on training my tenor voice to be even more amazing then it already is ( no ego talking here , just the fact, a natural God given gift I’m proud of and want to share it with the world). The negativity , what family members and friends say about what I’m doing with my life has drained me physically , mentally and emotionally , has caused me to be depressed , have enormous anxiety , it is 5:23am in NYC right now where I am, and I’m so glad I read your inspirational article. God has answered my prayers. why are “real people” so jealous , manipulative and envious of us singers? The world is so cruel , full of uninspired people . We need more people like you, and like me , to keep pursuing our dreams full force and tell all the negative people who have something to say to us ” go f**k yourself” walk about and never look back. It is the greatest feeling in the world and will set you free to pursue your dream , at ur own pace , without negativity. I’ve worked with a opera company for 2 years, built my support system, have 3 voice coachs , started my own dog walking business , have a beautiful partner , who he supports me full force , to all the people who are in this situation I was in , let everything and everyone who does not support you go, run , or they will keep you trapped for ever. once you’re on your own, get a part time job anywhere ! Whip asses if you have to, cantor , sing at church’s and demand you get paid ($75-100) a mass. Sing in subways , sing in pen station , apply to conservatorys , make YouTube videos and post them everywhere , also , clean your Facebook and Instagram , make it strictly for your career and networking , block <– all the people who do not support you , and don't allow them into your life , accept that the people you think you know don't believe in you , il say it again , they do not believe in you , how awful , I would never put down anyone who wants to be a doctor or a drag queen. Follow your heart , the rest will fall into place, trust that the universe is on your side , it always has been and will continue to be as long as you allow it .
Hi my name is Chris but everyone calls me Ben now it has stuck with me. I am 43 I have been singing since I was 10 and singing in Rock bands since I was 17. I am married with two kids I have wanted to give up on my dreams many times but I love performing so much I am currently a stay at home father and I have enrolled in a college course not to study music but to work in schools not really my passion but it will get me a job I would rather do a music producers course to be quite honest but I worry it is not gonna get me a job I have heard that if you have a backup plan then most likely you will fall back on it. I have come across negative comments my brother said to me oh you want to be a rock star well I want a house near the beach and laughed it made me feel so small my sister said to me just get a job then perdue your dreams nearly every time I sing people tell me wow you are great and even a couple of times people have asked for my autograph that was weird but soon flattering so I actually gave it to them.
I meant soo flattering and the word is persue sorry about the typos
Wow did you hit a nerve with me. First off I am 57 years old and you are right this yearning does not go away. When I was growing up I heard those comments all the time, especially from my father who would not support my career in music in any way, the comment I love the most of his is the usual “Why Don’t you go out and get a real job”. I got hurt 6 months out of High School and due to the injury and other issues, I packed on the pounds until 2 years later, I was at least 100 pounds overweight. I finally convinced my father I wanted to go into singing, but his compromise was that I open a retail music store, so a combination of that and local musical theater, kept me some what placated for a number of years until the business started failing about 15 years down the road.
By that time I was significantly further overweight due to many different causes some personal, some medical and genetic. I had to slow my performing way down due the physical problems I was having until finally in 2004 I was hospitalized with AFIB and also weighed in at a whopping 532 pounds(about 241 Kilos). Finally getting the help I needed I began to get back into what performing my body would allow, still singing, just not as much as I would like and still on the amateur side. The Irony to all this is that 6 months before my father passed away in 2011 he was telling me about a friend he was talking to who had heard me sing and said to me “why don’t you sing professionally son. Needless to say I had to hold my emotions back, it took him 35 years to realize that I could do this and by that time I had not only a severe weight problem, but many health concerns as well.
Things have changed in the last few years and I am getting better and better as each year went by, so that now I have lost 143 pounds(64 Kilos) to a current weight of 388 Pounds(175.99 Kilos). Even though I am 57 I want to pursue a career singing with the few years I may have left. I have already entered a few competitions and done decently well and now to the point where I am entered into the NY State(USA) Talent Qualifier with the top 25 being automatically invited to the NY State Talent Finals in Syracuse, NY USA at the State Fair in Late August.
I am glad I found your website as it has been helping me correct some technical mistakes I was making and helping to push me forward. Thank you Nicola, for all you are doing.
Congratulations on your weight loss! Well done! Its never too late to start (look at Susan Boyle!) and I’m so glad to hear that you’re finally pursuing your dreams. Keep going and you shall get there! I believe in you !!!! x
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I am graduating in one year and I want to be a big singer but I don’t want to go to a performing arts school because they focus on other things. I don’t plan on going to college and everyone keeps laughing at me and telling me to get a back up (Plan B) because I might not make it. I was planning to move away rent an apartment instead of going to college then I was planning to eat crackers and find some way to make money to pay my rent. Then I was going to just audition and sing and hopefully make it to hollywood. Any Advice????? I just want to sing and Rihanna is my inspiration but if you look at her from my knowledge she never had to learn an instrument or music notes like treble clef etc. to make it. But I am willing to work hard to get there. Even though I think no one can beat rihanna in that level of her career.
If you truly want to be a singer then GO FOR IT! You can’t live your life for anyone else and I know from personal experience that if you try to ‘ignore’ the inner desire to sing then it won’t go away. It will just eat at you until you finally do something about it so you might as well follow your dreams now and set your life on the path that you truly want to be on. xx
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Hello. I came to this blog after googling “all I ever wanted to do in my life was sung for a living but idk if i can” I’m a 37 year old man. I’m an army vet and was injured in Iraq. I’m fine besides pain and all. I’m getting disability soon from the va. Point is in now I’m a veterans shelter I Philly. After being homeless for 7 months. 2 years ago I may a woman started a buisness made 300k I my first year. For married now I have a 1year old son. After being diagnosed with adhd by the va 2 years ago about 1 year ago the medication I was on drive drive crazy. Manic psychosis. I lost it and lost the buisness and my house and my wife left and took my son and 2 step kids. After for a year and a half I had her quit u job and took care of everyone she said anyone can love her. She wanted someone to support her kids.. anyway. Long story short when I was a kid I was in the Philadelphia boys choir. Boys2men were in the same choir years earlier I sang with Luciano poverotti Phillies home opener national anthem and so much more.. my life was singing my ehole family was like the vontrap family lol. Anyway my voice changes at 15 so I had to leave the choir. I was one of the best singer’s 2nd soprano choir boys in earth. Then nothing.. growing up in Philly it wasn’t exactly cool to sing. So I left it all. But allways every day miss it and sing to myself and I fantisise about it. I now am trying to build my company back up and I know I will be successfull in that or anything. But I’ve got this terrible pain a yearning to just sing. My problem is idk what to do. Irk if i even have a voice that could n successful. I wishthere was someone I could just sing for who could tell me if my dream is possible or not.. if someone noteworthy who somehow knows these things told me I had a shot I would put everything into it. If they said no then i would drop it. Maybe weight songs or produce on the side but just on the side. I have my music inside of me. I feel so torn. Some days I feel like my purpose is to sing. Others I just try to forget.. I have a very big range I have a great ear. I’m in tune I can sing. But is it just a karaoke voice or Is my sound unique? And that is what is most important I think. I just find know. Many great singers say when they hear there voice that don’t like it. But others do obviously. How do I find out once and for all? What do I do.. my email is lifelibertybuilders@gmail.com id anyone has advice please help me out. Thank you so much.
I truly believe that you CAN make a decent living from music if you put all of your focus on it. I’ve got a video coming out soon on ‘How To Find Your Unique Style Of Singing’ that will help you. Make sure you’re subscribed to my list and I’ll let you know when its online 🙂
Hello Nicola that was very inspiring thanks a lot. I’m just a guy who really loves to sing a lot and I mean lot.Sometimes I would wake up from sleep with a song in my headhead,it’s not a song anyone’s sang before, it’s just something else,something amazingamazing.Sometimes I even go into the bathroom alone just to sing!! Some of my friends say they wish they had my voice,some others tell me to stop making noise as soon as I open my mouth.I believe am gonna be famous whether the world likes it or not and some day I will mention your name on the night I win my Grammy 🙂
Wooo! That’s the spirit! Definitely mention me when you win your Grammy!! 🙂
Ohkay…u said exactly what it looks like …I dunno if I’m doing it Right secretly wishing to go against my parents will to make a doctor.. I mean. I wanted to ,it was my choice then …preparation itlself just started getting not More than a daily headache ..marks r no longer motivation nor demotivating..I’m scared really scared to accept by myself that do I really should quit it bcuz I just can’t work on it.so I spend tim . only thing that my parents have as an end of a quick argument is my conscience telling me they have already spent money… Can I get ur email pls?
Hello Nicola, this Singer secret site is wonderful. I have been dreaming of becoming a singer since the age of 12. I would put my Moms heels on and call myself “Baby brown sugar”. I kept my love for singing a secret until the age of 36yrs. When I went to a kareoke bar for the first time and the response I got blew my mind. The problem is my Dad sings, and he never lets me sing at family gatherings although people ask to hear me sing. So I feel like Im not good enough. My son says I coiuld have been a big star. I absoloutely love to sing. What should I do? You were right, I buried it and IT NEVER GOES AWAY.
Follow your dreams and GO FOR IT!!!!!! You obviously love it so just start practicing more and looking for opportunities. When you focus your attention on what you want, you’ll be amazed at how doors start to open.
Thank you so much, Nicola for being supportive. I always dream of becoming a famous Hollywood singer, but I’m from India and I really can’t afford to go there. I want someone to support me. My parents want me to become a doctor, but my heart always wants to become a singer. Besides this, I don’t know to play any musical instrument. I love to compose songs too. Moreover, I have no formal training in singing. My parents have spend a lot of money for my study and that’s why I’m not being able to get my guts to tell them. They if I learn to play guitar, it may affect on my studies. At present, I’m thinking of to learn how to create music in laptop so that I can show my talent to the people. Is it wise to do this on You tube? Is it possible to sing a self-composed song in You tube? Please guide me. I’m really in need of you…
of course you can use youtube
Jim Rhon said give it a go ! but be wise and understand that you have to give it all you got si the faster you doit the sooner you will find out if its time to turn back and chose another path ! not after 5 years That will be too long or if you really wont give it up in hopes of the magical call to save your soul. then you are gona have to work even harder as in a day job and your dream job , agai I quote Jim – I work fulltime in my job and partime in my fortune ! but just dont make other people pay for your dream specialy parents that canvonly help you so much ,be realistic set your goals, know when to quit.
Thanks! But what I actually asked google was that what should I do if my parents are against singing to succeed? I need an alternative so that I can start my practice right now (at 16) I don’t want to succeed when i’m around 23 or 24,Do you have any suggestions or anyone? Please help
I am ankita mishra I have no family support and money but I know that l am talented girl please believe me and help me i have great passion for music i want make singer i can do anything how i get addmission in best institute to achieve my dreams please tell me
I really want to be a singer. I’ve been singing all of my life, and now I’m 16. I’m a very talented singer for my age and I can do a lot, I can also write my own music. However, there’s always this negative thought in my head of “there’s no point trying anymore, it’s unrealistic and not achievable”. This thought has spun from basically all of my family telling me I’m never going to be anything, so it’s better to do something else. But I tell them all the time, I’d rather risk my future doing something I enjoy, rather than something which makes me miserable. The only support I get is from my close friends, and they’re the only two people who keep me going. I can’t see my self as anything but a singer. And it generally gets to the heights of me thinking “what’s the point of living anymore if I’m just going to be nothing”. I really want to know about: How do I start? Where do I start? How can my dreams be persued? Thank you.
Hey.
I am experiencing that problem right now.
I can’t even focus much at school cause of the hate comments, critic, etc etc.
It’s very bad. I need advice, help and motivation… A friend.
KiK me please and help me. @the_intoxicated
Hi. I’m 59 years old and a lyric baritone. In High School I scored second in the state for all state competition as a baritone. I also played starting nose tackle on the football team, had leads in plays, and was the Student Body President. I had lots of ambition and am told very good looking (that’s subjective, of course).
My father didn’t approve of me going to college and would not pay if I chose to study music in any way. He insisted I go to business school where I flunked accounting and then tried marketing, which was better but I didn’t love it.
My Dad was a master of leveraging his will on people with his money.Back then, there were not well known alternatives to get loans for school, even public universities, which I attended. I gave up my dreams of vocal singing and training as a career. Specifically I wanted to perform. I was told by everyone but mostly him it was impractical.
When I got enough money and a truly supportive wife and some time a few years ago I jumped back into it and took some lessons from college professors on the side and now take from an operatic baritone performer who travels the US on tour and trains me while he is in town. I am singing Opera with the local opera chorus and growing every day in my full voice singing and making notable strides. It seems a lack of alot of singing has actually kind of preserved my voice to a degree.
My advice is that you are never too old to give up your dreams in some way. It’s not easy as you get older, but it’s also not impossible. And with the advent of the internet and smart phones, neither of which existed when I was in college, there is alot of ability to learn and share experiences and information on funding, etc.
It is likely possible I would have had a great career if I had studied early on and learned some building blocks faster. At this age, roles are limited and full time careers are non-existent as an entry point really. But there are ways to feel fulfilled and still pursue your passions.
Don’t let others dictate your future. There is plenty of room for success for passionate and committed people.
Hi. I am 18 now…I love singing as it is my life.Like no life exist without my songs..what they really meant to me
I don’t have any idea.
My parents are supportive but they have fear that will i be able to make my carrer in singing..& honestly i too have slightly fear..i can sing all day long..
I have confidence inside me i won’t distract ..but “what if i will”
This question is always keep going in my mind.
Please help
I never felt supported by my family. Strangers would always ask why I wasn’t singing professionally but my family always encouraged me to keep it as a hobby, because basically goong for it and being a failure was embarrassing and of course the good old, it’s not a proper job. (Yet they’ll happily pay a lot for a singer at their wedding) my dad was a singer but he also wasn’t really supported in his dream and I feel that without family support it really is difficult. You have your own doubts and insecurities, along with the real life obstacles so when you don’t have someone
Keeping you afloat it feels too hard. I studied acting in the end but have returned to Scotland and am now determined to just record a demo and get out singing with bands full time. I originally was a bit snobby about wedding singing, but not I would be honoured to just make money doing what I love.
When I was young I had a beautiful voice, but not one family member ever told me I should persue singing. I had no money of my own to take lessons and then I married and discovered that my husband thought my singing was not an option! He would walk out of the room everytime I started singing. To me that meant he didn’t like my singing though he never told me whether he did or not, so I began to second-guess my ability to sing. I stopped singing all together and started raising children and going to nursing school, but even years later, the wish to sing again was still in my heart! After 60 + years, I still want to sing and I think I can sing as good as some, but not as good as others. But for my age, I do okay. I still need practice and I’m getting better. My love is Southern Gospel and though I know my singing days professionally will never be, I still enjoy singing for myself and for my LORD. I’m thinking of singing for my small church, but I don’t want to make a fool of myself! Should I try anyway? Thanks for listening!
If that’s what will make you happy, then you just go ahead.
Whenever I sing in a wedding I was always being told that I sing like an angel and that I make people cry. I am a lyric soprano and classical singing is my first love since childhood. I am a niece of a coloratura soprano who sang in several opera houses during the 70’s. When I was little, I thought that I can do at least half of what she did. But she was mentored and I’m not and I cannot afford to study. And I will not ask for help because I think I am just a waste of money. Because whenever I try to put out my singing into the next level and outside the church, I am always being put into weird situations that are out of my control. Whenever I will practice from home, there will be smoke coming from the neighborhood and I’ll get sinusitis. Sometimes, my cd will just stuck during a performance. There is one time that I was given a costume that is too ugly that really affected my confidence and my singing and made me lost a battle. I tried to fight but I was only being left totally exhausted and ungraceful. Actually, even my place as a wedding singer was also taken away from me by a church authority who doesn’t know about the mechanics of what I’m doing.(Well, he is a father of a young girl who builds her popularity on singing using his influence. His daughter obviously cannot do what I can do.) Thinking about all those strange disasters and comparing them to my own contemporaries who effortlessly made their way into singing, I was led into belief that I am under the spell. I decided to give up but my heart breaks whenever I watch someone winning a competition or being praised by big names when I know that I can do better. I think Life seems so unfair.
Hi,Nicola
Do you know I really love singing and I am in 7th standard.And my AIM was to be a singer like hindi singer neha kakkar.my father did not support. So please reply me fast what I do to be a singer. Reply fast PLEASE.
How am I get singing lessons and where.
I’m from India, I’ll be giving my 12th standard exam shortly within few months. I had previously decided to become an engineer after passing 10th standard. My parents have put in a lot of money in tuitions for my studies but now I’ve lost all interest in engineering and feel like there’s a hole in my brain telling me not to go for engineering. I’m a non singer but I have a good voice and I can sing in front of the whole world… I don’t know why I can’t sing in front of my parents (maybe I’m afraid). They have very high ambitions as I topped my school and many competitions… I really want to be a singer but my parents will be surely against it and will break their heart and ambitions. I know I took longer to make this decision but at least I came to a conclusion of not taking engineering. I don’t know how to approach them and open up to them and explain them about my dream. Please give me some advice.
Hii.I am priyanka i want to become a singer…But i am an engineering student…my friends told me ..singing is waste of time…try to go for job…but i want to learn singing…and i have no financial support also….but its so hard to quit singing
hi Nicola!
I absolutely love music. I sing and play the piano, and I want to post music covers.
all my friends tell me that I’m good, and I think I sound alright too. then came the catch…
my parents don’t say things that are particularly encouraging about music. they put my studies first and don’t want me to have music as a career even though I want to. (I’m not even close to needing a job yet but I’m already thinking about it.)
when I told my mom I wanted to post music covers she didn’t say anything until I started to play and sing. she told me that my “tone/pitch was too flat”. I’m sure that was supposed to be constructive so she wouldn’t sound so rude if she just said “it’s not very good” (which she did).
I know that if I believe in something I should achieve it, but my mom has always been the one with decent advice.
I’m probably being sensitive with this sort of thing but I haven’t performed much. my friends have heard me sing and my family has too.
Now I’m hesitating with whether I want to continue being a musician. one comment about my music and singing shouldn’t change anything but my mom hasn’t changed pace other than keeping quiet and saying that I’m bout so good (or “okay” if I perform decently).
I’m 15 year old and I’m in collage
Class 1st year
I want to be a singer
So plz guide me
Hi!! It’s awesome that I found this! Still there, at 37 when I finally got a job, which is really boring, and daydreaming to be a singer. It’s quite confusing, because I’m not very outgoing, I have a lot of sense of ridiculousness. I say this because when I began going to castings my mum told me that I wasn’t good enough, so I quit. Even though I did Secretarial Studies, and trying in different places to work, meanwhile I was writing songs and singing for me. I don’t need to show off my skills, I just sing because it makes me happy, and it’s my way to get off my chest. I don’t know what to do. I’m so stuck. I feel I’d need a lot of help, to improve my singing and playing an instrument to compose my songs. Anyway, probably nobody’s going to read this, ’cause I’ve always felt invisible. BUt I don’t care, I won’t change and I know I’ll keep on writing songs and singing, at least for myself, because is the only thing that makes me happy. However if there’s somebody there, thanks! and please check out my songs on : soundcloud.com/edwinaworld
hi i am an asian chinese male who loves to sing for 20over years,mainly singing chinese ,cantonese songs.i know i can sing as proven by my youtube channel likes but the main problem is i am surrounded by people who hate singing or LOOK DOWN on singing.i am very very lonely and sad.i often quarrelled with my mother who says singing is going on a crooked path!my friends all left me when i was too obsessed with singing and OUTSIDE people commenting and liking my youtube songs.
i think being somebody with dreams is destined to be lonely in life.
i yearn to find people who share the same views in life as me.
thanks everybody
Hello. Im hearing impaired. Born hard of hearing my brother is also deaf too. I been taking care of him since mom and dad pass away. People thought we was slow BUT the Bible said I can do ALL Things through Christ who Strengthens Me…God gave me a gift to sing. I been singing since I was 4.I had recorded my first song 3 years ago my dream is to become a gospel singer and yes i have some family/friends think i couldnt do it. The love of my life is a musician and had a band and played for many years. We had so much in common in music til one day Ive been bless by God to sing gospel and he just went against me. I never brag about it. I thought he would be proud but the way his attitude toward me seems like he not happy at all.God gave me this voice and hope to take it far through Christ one day that i be performing more. And to All of you talent people, use what God Gave You. Be Blessed
at about 13 years old…i had a dream to become a singer….already i have got a singing talent….bt i never learnt or gone to any institution to learn it….my parents never made an interest in it…..they would hear me sing….bt never want to see me as a singer….they just want to see me as a doctor…nurse sthg else….bt i want to become a singer…..even they made me sad….this makes me strong….everyday i listen english music mostly justin bieber songs ,fifth harmony,little mix ,demi lovato….and sooo much more…..i begin to take vocal techniques ….vocal warming in youtube …i became better….i performed live at different functions….feeling soo happy…my friends supports me….bt not my parents……everytime i watch youtube….i mostly watch x factor audition….sometimes we could see the participants family waiting eagerly and exited….and each time the participants say that my mom supports me…..or is supportive ….made my eyes in tears……now i’m in 12 th class…..after that i hope to go and join in a music college in germany….audition the x factor or sthg else……..im so happy and exited bt my parents…….then i got you nicola…i feel soo happpy so encouraged….hope to meet you one day and collaborate…..god bless ya…..have a good day…lots of lovess
I am 18 years old and I live in a place where it is HEAVILY focused on law and finance. I am completing my final year in school and I plan on taking a gap year afterwards to decide on what to do. I have ALWAYS had this dream to become a professional singer since the age of 12. At my secondary and primary school there were opportunities to do singing where I made sure I participated in every event. I’m 18 now and now I don’t know what to do. Where I live there are no places to sing and now that I’m older, the school I’m in now directs student to law and finance so I’m fighting with myself on what I should do next. I have never traveled anywhere on my own before.
Can someone please give me some advice on what I should do.
I’ve grown up in around musical theatre my whole life til I was 20 then I felt like I got stuffed in the shadows of my older sister who has an amazing well trained voice (but is all performance and technical no heart and soul). I have had voice training from the age of 4 to 18 then quit cause I felt and everyone around me (mainly my older sister) felt I wasn’t good enough but later in life I went through some traumatic experiences and I have noticed the more I sang through my heart and soul the rest came so easy (notes,range,pitch) now I’m 43 with 2 kids and a husband who thought all of this was stupid til he heard me sing one night at karaoke but I feel like no its time to put away childish things I guess I’m just ranting but when I sing its takes my anxiety and depression away. So THE question I have is did miss my calling?
Its never too late! Musical theatre needs characters of all ages 🙂
I am Sneha .I am 14 Years old from India . I am a Professional Singers Songwriter but My dad and my family don’t like this. I want buy guitar and piano but my dad didn’t allowed me. I don’t know that what I am do right now .My dad don’t like to see me in singing career but my school teachers and friends always support me in singing. I live in very small town and their is no chance of any singing line.I had many problems in my life I have also no money to move other places for my singing career.
Sneha I am also 14 years old and I am struggleing with a same problem like you and I am from india can you tell me which city you are from
Hi Nicola,
I want to become a singer but my parents don’t take it seriously.
I’m a little shy to tell them about my singing career…..Can you help me?
Hi, I’m a sophomore in college who is pursuing a degree in fine arts and I just finished my second year of college. It’s been hard and I’ve been very depressed lately for lots of reason mainly wondering is this what I want to do in life am I doing I really want? I’m 19 going on 20 and I thought I was ok with not being able to sing since my mom protests it and some negative comments and always comparing myself to others. But my friend says I have a good voice and encourages me to go for it. I don’t want to learn because I want to get famous or anything I love singing ever since I was little and see it as a hobby, but also want to combine it with art by creating animated MVs and do voice acting singing for characters. I really thought I was content on not going for singing but every time I look back in my old journals from elementary or things I said I wanted to do in life, I always find that I want to be a singer. I love musicals I love singing along to Disney movies and I honestly for the first time broke down crying last night realizing I want to sing, but know my mother or anyone else wouldn’t approve of because I’m in college and feel I’m not serious or I’ll just waste my money. No matter how hard I try to push it away it always end up coming back and I’m just like why is it that I can’t forget about it. I really love singing and want to learn, but I’m so scared.
My name is Kim and o just graduated from middle school as long as I can remember I always wanted to song since I was 8 but had no support and it really weighs me down especially from my parents
Hey, I enjoy your article here and it touches my heart. When I was growing up the only thing i ever dreamed of was to be a musician I loved to sing and would sing on stage at church at 4 and 5 years old alone. In high school I found out I had a knack for acting and fell deeply in love with performing arts even more. When I went to college I studied regular classes like interior design and creative writing (my family’s persistance) now I am a stay at hime mom with my 1 year old and fiance. There is a part of me that longs for stage and performing. I had considered doing voice acting but waa informed that it is to late for me. So I totally agree singing and performing are things that you will miss greatly when you are no longer able to obtain them.
Hello , my name is Yasmine i’m half from Greece and half from Maroco.
I’m singing since 8 years old secretly cuz my family and now my boyfriend doesn’t want it. I studied journalishm but i never worked as journalist and to be honest i don’t like it that much.Now i’m working as a secretary i hate it but provides me a proper life. I dried so hard to succed my dream in Greece but i found many doors closed firstly because i sing pop- r’n’b and they don’t know how to manag pop singers as they told me secondly they told me i am too old to become singer because know i am 26.
I was thinging to move to England and go to X – Factor but i am afraid that they will tell me the same stuff. What should i do?? Where i suppose to go?? Should i stay in Greece or not??? It is so hard to make a dicision. Sometimes i feel helpless!!!
Start putting stuff up on YouTube and build a following first.
Hey Nicola, I’m glad to chance upon your post. I’ve always loved singing since I was in school (13). I was quite actively performing solos and in bands, and there were many obstacles. There were times my band mates chose someone else over me as their vocalist and I ended up as the guitarist instead. And when I met my then boyfriend (now husband), I participated in 2 singing contests. I didn’t win both but my performances were terrible imo. Firstly, I had no support. No one came to give me the support I needed. Secondly, because my boyfriend had made me feel insecure about my singing voice (kept telling me I can’t sing), I lost all confidence in singing in public and got a huge stage fright. That’s when I stopped singing for years. I then grew some courage recently (I’m 25 now) when I met a friend who seems to be supportive of me, I’d send him song covers and he’d compliment them. I know I can’t sing like Whitney Houston/Mariah Carey, but I definitely LOVE to sing. I don’t suck at it. Nor am I good at it. I really want to pursue my dreams in singing but I don’t get the support I need. Which brings down my confidence = unable for me to improve vocally. There were times I submitted online auditions for contests secretly (without my husband’s approval or knowledge) because I know he’d mock me. I also record my covers when he’s not around. I wanted to join this Company that pays us to do singing gigs. He didn’t disapprove but I could tell he thought I was joking. I just want to do what I love. Sigh..
hi im Dumi and im 27 years old,from a small country in Africa named Lesotho, we are very Poor in this country and people believe the only way to survive is through education. i did computer Engineering just to make a living but yes i got a nice job but actually i love singing .i have been singing from the age of 3 years everywhere even at church,at school even at work but i am so depressed and hurt because my mum does not understand anything about me being singing and going for rehearsals. in our country Arts are not taken seriously because nobody pays .you would perform in every show for free,but honestly i love music and now the problem is i am the breadwinner at home and i love singing and still believe that one i can make a living through music in the same country doing what i love
I really love to sing yes I had people who didn’t let me sing on stage it makes me sad when I can’t perform because I love performing and when you are a singer you can get the love of your life there’s so many reasons why I want to be a famous country pop romance gospel singer but my parents won’t let me but I want to because I wanna be cool and I want to be famous and I wanna impress the boy of my dreams I wish someday they’d let me be a singer
Hi, im totally confused to what to do wid ma life .i want to be a singer many of ma friends complemented on ma voice.but when i sing in front of ma sister she says me that i make the song sound so different in a bad way and im not good at singing.and when i tell her that many of ma friends have said that im good then her reply was “may be there voices are worst than urs and first of all dont blindly trust ur friends word they just bluff or they want to confuse u” .whome should i trust
Hi my name is Erastus. I have been trying music for many years now but didn’t actually do anything till now. I try to avoid it just coz people says it’s not any good for a living. I practice sometimes though but people calls me crazy,and that I should try something else.I know I’m super good in singing that’s why i never give up. I live in a country where HIP/HOP is not understood. I love doing hip hop so they try to tell me it’s for American people only.I get and live with negativity everywhere I go. But I’ll keep fighting forever.
Hello Nicola, I love your video, its very inspiring and your right on how that desire to sing doesn’t go away….. my name is Heather and I’ve been wanting to sing all my life…… I would always sing as soon as I came home from school when I was younger for quite some time but only around my little brother. Time went on and I forgot about my passion because I didn’t believe in myself I also have terrible stage fright so even when I presented on stage I pretty much have a panic attack… How could I follow my dreams when fear follows me everywhere I go and it gets the best of me? I opened up to my older sister about a year ago and showed her a couple recordings… she did say you have a good voice and that I should join a “choir” but It didn’t feel as if it was sincere I almost feel like shes saying it just because she is my sister. We visit our family’s sometimes and she says around them “O Jonah (my brother) you should join a choir you have a great voice! and completely leaves me out like she never heard me sing. It really hurts me and now I feel like when she comes home I cant even sing cause I feel anxious and less confident now that shes not supporting me as I would of liked… Do you know some steps I could take to solve my situation? Thank you, Merry Christmas
Hello Nicola,
I’m 12 years old I’m moving to 7th grade soon and turning 13 this year. Before I wanted to become a singer I had wanted to become an artist. But, after a lot of thought I realized that art for me was just a hobby/skill. As soon as I saw others performing I knew right then and there what I wanted to become.
Now, I’m really starting to feel like maybe this isn’t what I’m meant to do because… Well I feel like I’m not getting ANY support from my family…
So, whenever I told my parents about me wanting to become a singer, they both told me the same thing “I thought you were to nervous to perform in front of other people?”. And Everytime they said this a million thoughts when in my head. For example: whenever they told me this is would think “Do my own parents not think I can’t reach this goal?”.
… You see? Now that starting to get over my stage fright I really want to achieve my goal. I don’t want to be a singer for fame or anything no it’s not that, when I was thinking about this choice I didn’t want to just become famous I wanted to help others. All I want to do is entertain others with my music I want them to feel more comfortable in their life.
Nicola, it would mean a lot if you can help me out with this. I know you will have great advice so please help me out with this. If you could help me out that would be amazing thank you Nicola.
Hi Nicole I am 12 years old and going to be 13 on this September 2020. I live in India. I want to be a singer. I want to become a singer from 2019 September. But my parents never let me to become a singer. But I never and ever think I can’tell sing without any support. I know it’s not seen be easy but it’s necessary for me to become a singer because it’s my life.
I’m grateful I found your site today! I have been a singer songwriter for nearly 15 years. It’s been an uphill battle and after fighting homelessness and hunger, I finally decided to take a day job until I could “get on my feet”. Here I am 3 years later, on my feet and living in a new town. Covid-19 hit right after I got here and I can’t find gigs or new contacts. People keep telling me I’m too old or too heavy, or too out of touch to make it and I should resign myself to just working a 9 to 5. But I’m still singing? I was so happy to see your comment about not being able to stop thinking about it because I was beginning to believe I was all alone in the world! When I was younger, raising my kids, I set up my own tours and took them with me. I made a fairly good wage doing it too, but after the hurtles, it became harder and harder to get my work in front of people and now I barely make enough to get by, let alone record. I’m not letting it get me down. I’m still trying, it’s just hard when people keep reminding you that paying bills is more important, that no one wants to see an old fat lady sing, etc… Thank you so much for the encouraging post!
You’re welcome xx
You are really a very high talented singer!!! I really love your music!!
Thank you!
hi, i have a question. I am 12 years old and i love to sing and to write my own music. I don’t like to sing in front of other people but that isn’t my main problem. i sing in my room with my humidifier on so no one will hear me, but even if I am just humming my older sister will barge into my room and literally scream at me for singing. she makes excuses like “i am studying” or something but I tell her that if i am bothering her she should go somewhere else. I tried telling my parents but they just don’t understand. they say “well why can’t you just stop singing?” Singing is literally the only thing i like to do a lot and writing songs helps me through when I am stressed or sad. i asked my sis if she thinks i am good and she said yes but it’s annoying to hear which hurt a lot. please help I really don’t know what to do anymore and i am starting to lose hope
Thank you so much this has help many people like me who has got discourage in many times, they found it diffcult to find their long lost spirit of music’ wondering through life with dout like alovera. Thinking they can never be what they wish to be.
What if your partner is a horrible singer and it’s their dream to be a singer performer. They spend precious money they can’t afford on singing lessons and devote so much time and energy into singing and it doesn’t help. When is it time to give up?
Let them sing in choirs or amateur bands. If it makes them happy just support them. The music industry is so tough that if they don’t ‘make it’, the industry will do the hard work for you. If they do happen to make it, then happy days all round 🙂
hi Nicola so xmas is coming up but my sister said i don’t have a good voice i’m trying to make a song for her and i don’t know what to do can you help?
my parents have always discouraged my taking music and singing, but also gifted me my first guitar: a 100 year old Gibson acoustic guitar from my great great grandfather. I played that guitar out. However, I never perused music in college and “lost” my ability to sing- living in an apartment- I was aware that other tenants might be bothered by the sound.
I am currently in a band where another singer has shown they have lungs and I remembered that feeling but it took years of watching them feel confident in the band while I felt like trash. Whenever I would try to sing, I felt unworthy, but yes. There is a burning inside of me to sing, and I feel warranted in that by the reactions I received during the time frame I was confident and practiced often.
I have found my voice since then and it’s been a pleasure to play with. However, I feel like my romantic partner doesn’t love my voice and that breaks my heart. I’m serious about this person and in a band with them. So.. of course I want them to accept me and encourage me, but I only feel like they cannot wait until I am done singing. They told me recently that my singing near them bothered them. I asked them why and they said they didn’t know. It was very confusing.
I’m trying my best to be me. I know what I want. I’ve always wanted this. Thank you for having this blog space.